The comings and goings of communication with connection

Reciprocity is fundamental in meaningful interpersonal communication.

One of the obstacles to the flow of communication is when only one side considers the relationship important and significant and even priority in some cases.

Careful reciprocity promotes an atmosphere of trust and mutual support. Open and honest communication allows not only partners, but also relatives and close friends, to express their feelings and needs, strengthening affective ties and emotional intimacy. When everyone feels valued and understood, the relationship becomes more balanced and satisfying, contributing to the personal growth of each one.

Thus, it not only enriches the emotional connection, but is also essential for building a lasting and healthy relationship.

The central idea of reciprocity is linked to the back and forth movement, that is, something that is returned in the same measure or in an exchange cycle.

In the field of human relations, it describes the act of giving and receiving in an equivalent way.

It is a principle that suggests that people tend to respond to each other with attitudes, gestures or behaviors similar to what they receive.

In communication, it manifests itself in several ways, such as:

1. Exchange of attention and listening: when someone feels heard and understood, they tend to return that attention. This dynamic creates a positive cycle of dialogue, promoting trust and connection.
   

2. Empathy and validation: when we recognize the feelings and needs of the other, there is a greater probability of receiving an equally empathetic response. This strengthens the bond and opens space for a deeper dialogue.
   

3. In the method of the language of Nonviolent Communication - NVC (read the ABC article of the CNV) reciprocity is intentionally built, by expressing our needs and listening to those of the other clearly and without judging. Attention is essential. This harmony facilitates spontaneous cooperation and exchange between all.

   
   

The main obstacles to reciprocity in intimate relationships include:

1. Lack of communication: The absence of clear dialogue results in misunderstandings and conflicts, harming the emotional connection.
   

2. Lack of commitment: When one or both partners do not dedicate themselves to the relationship, intimacy and trust decrease.
   

3. Disaligned expectations: Unmet desires and needs can generate frustration, making reciprocity difficult.
   

4. Emotional conflicts: Internal problems and unconscious projections can interfere with the ability to recognize and value the other.

When the balance is more to one side than the other, it generates weight for both. Because the one who receives a lot may not be able to offer in equal intensity, for several reasons that go beyond the objective of this text. In turn, the one who receives little may feel disappointment.

The absence of reciprocity between those who speak and those who listen can contaminate communication, such as dissatisfaction, feeling of injustice or emotional distancing, and can lead to the breakdown of relationships.